{"id":2493,"date":"2020-08-09T11:41:16","date_gmt":"2020-08-09T10:41:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/towncryyers.com\/?p=2493"},"modified":"2020-08-09T11:41:20","modified_gmt":"2020-08-09T10:41:20","slug":"my-girlfriend-has-slept-with-100-men-im-worried-about-fidelity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/towncryyers.com\/index.php\/2020\/08\/09\/my-girlfriend-has-slept-with-100-men-im-worried-about-fidelity\/","title":{"rendered":"My Girlfriend Has Slept With 100 Men \u2013 I\u2019m Worried About Fidelity"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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You know her cravings come from the loss of her father, says Mariella Frostrup. But understanding what you want from this relationship must be your priority<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

By Mariella Frostrup<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The dilemma my partner\u2019s relationships with other men is concerning me. She has admitted to sleeping with close to 100 men in the past, many for personal gain \u2013 including cash, gifts and holidays. I was shell-shocked, not so much that she participated, but that she confessed so blatantly. I also know that she has flirted with married men, enjoying dinner and sharing a hotel bed with one of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To me it appears that as a woman who was abandoned by her father at a young age, she struggles to say no to men. She went on holiday with a female friend and came back with a new man\u2019s number in her phone whom she messaged frequently, and said I was being silly when I asked about him. She has no qualms about telling me that her male colleagues look at her in a way that suggests they\u2019re interested in her. She appears to thirst for this attention, perhaps subconsciously.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her reaction to my concerns is normally anger and so I avoid these topics, although inside me it is grating. I love her and have cut all ties with past flames, so she has nothing to worry about in terms of my faithfulness, but this is not reciprocated. Do I have it out with her, or shrug and accept that this is who she is?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mariella replies Where to begin? Certainly not with a headcount of past lovers, which means little or nothing and certainly has no real bearing on your current predicament. If you\u2019re judging a partner by the number of people they\u2019ve slept with, then your priorities are seriously questionable. Then again, I\u2019m not impressed by the transactional nature of some of her past choices either. The question you should be asking is what this woman is looking for, and do you have the strength, courage or, indeed, desire to help her find it.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

She seems to need love, not in a clingy way but in a manner that aims to serve an all-consuming hunger for someone to feed her emotional cravings. You tell me a lot about her, but very little about you and why your needs and desires should be so sublimated. What do you want from this relationship? Do you want to be tortured in this way by the desirability and unpredictability of another?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your girlfriend sounds like she has issues with self-esteem and misplaced ideas of how to gain self-worth. I\u2019m presuming much of what you describe has happened in the past and, as LP Hartley famously said: \u201cThe past is a foreign country, they do things differently there.\u201d What happened before you two got together may offer you context, but it\u2019s irrelevant when it comes to defining how she should behave in your relationship.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I feel sorry for your girlfriend because losing your father as a young girl is as painful as parting can get, and instils in all but the most resilient a sense of failure and lack of self-value that can remain throughout life. I know quite a few women \u2013 myself included \u2013 who took until their late 30s or early 40s to shrug off that burden and realise that they don\u2019t have to shoulder the blame or carry the responsibility for a parent\u2019s absence.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you say, your partner seems to be trying to replace her father with any member of his sex that she thinks has the potential to fill the space he left behind. It\u2019s not that she can\u2019t say no to men but that she\u2019s under the illusion that sheer weight of numbers will ground her desire.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In reality, the unconditional love she seeks is the kind only a parent can offer. You can\u2019t stop her mourning her father\u2019s absence, but you can possibly help her see that what she\u2019s looking for lies within her \u2013 and is for her alone to mend. This isn\u2019t about the lovers she\u2019s had, could potentially have or, in the worst-case scenario, continues to have. It\u2019s about a damaged little girl trying to replace her first love with a succession of alternatives.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You could be flattered that she has found enough of a home in you to slow the pace of her relentless quest, but as you\u2019ve observed she\u2019s not done searching. That\u2019s why I asked at the beginning if you had the energy and commitment to try to help steer her to safe harbour. But the only way you can ever help anybody else is to first understand yourself, and I\u2019d propose that\u2019s where you begin this quest. Try to understand your own motivation in enduring the insecurity she provokes. While she works out her own priorities, what is obvious is that all this emotional fog leaves little room for a clear view \u2013 so neither of you knows yet if you have found what you\u2019re looking for.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether you can shape what you have into something less debilitating is a question I can\u2019t answer, but bigger romantic miracles have occurred. In answer to your question, I don\u2019t think you need have it out, nor shrug and accept \u2013 instead I suggest a more imaginative journey where you learn a lot more about your own desires as a route to finding out whether you can, or even want, to keep up with hers. Major emotional investment, resilience and commitment will be required along the way but<\/em> your adventure will be fruitless if you don\u2019t get to know the landscape of your own heart first.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have a dilemma, send a brief email to mariella.frostrup@observer.co.uk. Follow her on Twitter @mariellaf1<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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