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When you understand this, it’ll be easier for you to be a better parent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
By David Willans, Founder of Being Dads, exploring what it means to be a great dad<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We\u2019re all trying to make the most of our fleeting time as a family. Not only for ourselves, but for our children too.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Time spent together is the foundation of any relationship. Without putting in the time, the relationship exists only in name. But merely being on the pitch doesn\u2019t win the game, it\u2019s what you do when you\u2019re there that determines the results you get.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This isn\u2019t just about you though. What happens in the time you spend with your children will shape the kind of person they become, the kind of relationships they make. It will influence their success in, and quality of, life. For the rest of their lives. When we\u2019re impatient, or there in body but elsewhere in mind, we\u2019re not just losing the precious time with our family, the time we\u2019ve worked so hard to earn. When we\u2019re repeatedly mentally absent or impatient, we\u2019re shaping who they are in unhealthy and unhelpful ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When you understand how this works you will have more motivation to change. Arguably, and it\u2019s a very strong argument, attachment theory is the most important idea in child development, full stop. So if you want to raise your amazing little person to be the best big person they can be, you need to understand it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Let\u2019s go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dr John Bowlby dedicated 50 years of his life to proving an idea he\u2019d glimpsed at the very beginning of his career. Aged 22, he was about to embark on a medical career, when he started working with delinquent children. There he noticed that a large portion of his study had all experienced a prolonged period of separation from their mothers in their early life. Despite qualifying as a doctor of medicine, he never practiced, instead choosing to continue his work with children. He trained as a psychoanalyst, qualifying in 1936 aged 30. During WWII, Bowlby became a Lieutenant Colonel in the Royal Army Medical Corps and worked with children evacuated from London to Cambridge to escape the bombing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
His particular interest was around the mother-child relationship. He\u2019d seen things that couldn\u2019t be explained by Freud\u2019s dominant theory of the day. But he didn\u2019t have the data, so he kept working. By the late 1950s he had amassed a body of evidence that indicated the fundamental importance for human development of attachment relationships. It wasn\u2019t until 1988 that he felt he had enough evidence, drawn from fields like evolutionary biology, developmental psychology, cognitive science and others, that he fully articulated attachment theory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Attachment theory says that, in the first 2-3 years of a child\u2019s life, they develop an emotional attachment to the one, two or three primary carers in their lives. A primary carer is someone who has established the kind of bond with the child, where the child relies on them to have their needs met. These bonds are formed from by the repeated experience of care the infant has from the very early days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The bond a primary carer creates, through reliable, sensitive responses, does a number of things. It builds a solid foundation of security for the child. They know there\u2019s someone there for them who will meet their needs. Someone to feed them when they\u2019re hungry, warm them when they\u2019re cold, protect them when they\u2019re afraid, help them work through their difficult emotions, stop them when they\u2019re risking themselves serious harm, give them attention when they feel alone, love them for who they are, not what they do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
This is attachment-building.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s a blueprint for relationships formed in the early years, that impacts on your child\u2019s life, for the rest of their life. We continue to experience attachment needs throughout our lives, often triggered by moments of need or uncertainty. It\u2019s in part, why we want recognition, validation, attention, why people crave Likes, why a simple \u2018good job\u2019 goes a very long way, why a sincere \u2018thank you\u2019 and heartfelt \u2018sorry\u2019 matter. It may well be why \u2018fame\u2019 is so sought after. In theories of motivation (Self Determination Theory if you\u2019re a geek), it\u2019s relatedness. We are motivated by connections with others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
People with strong, secure attachments in their early years, develop confidence and resilience. They know how to form healthy emotional relationships, because they have experienced absolute trust in their primary relationship(s), they can start to build it in new ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
An insecure attachment tends to lead to people having more difficulty forming relationships, finding it harder to trust \u2013 because their primary carers weren\u2019t as reliably available and helpful, they don\u2019t expect other people to be either. Those with the most difficult attachment experiences, are more likely to experience addiction, do poorly academically, suffer poor mental health and engage in anti-social or criminal behaviour.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A healthy attachment gives a child, who later turns into an adult, a secure base from which to go out and explore the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What this means for you<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Building a strong attachment means being a consistent, stable, caring, calm presence in your child\u2019s life. Don\u2019t worry, it doesn\u2019t mean you need to be perfect, research shows that, as long as you do well about 50% of the time, you\u2019ll be doing them well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Being calm means being more emotionally regulated and more patient. Being present, well means being really present. Not just absentmindedly playing with them or listening to their babble while you plan what to do about that thing at work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Working on building a strong bond isn\u2019t just a selfless act. When you work on your patience and presence, and form a strong bond, you benefit in spades. I can speak from first-hand experience. I went from being frustrated with myself and my situation to becoming proud of the man I was turning into. I was enjoying the journey of change, in spite of the set-backs and screw ups, I knew I was fulfilling my role as a father. I found it easier to change things in other areas of my life. I was better at my job, more able to have the kind of conversations I\u2019d have shied away from in the past. I can\u2019t understate how it feels to be proud of yourself as a parent. There\u2019s an inner glow you get, a core that you can return to no matter what the world throws at you. It doesn\u2019t matter how problematic a once trusted business partner turns out to be, how drastically you\u2019re forced to change your path and your plans.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019ll be clearer. I left a business I thought would set me up for life because it was turning me into someone I didn\u2019t want to be. My business partner became highly controlling and unrealistically demanding. I left with no plan, but because of the kind of dad I was becoming, I knew it was right. I left with confidence and soon sorted something else out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The pressure of needing to provide was there, but it wasn\u2019t a burden, it became motivation. I knew I was becoming better and I knew I could find a way to provide, not just financially but fully, in every dimension a parent is meant to. This strong bond you form isn\u2019t a one way thing. It gives you a solid foundation. It gives you more strength. It gives you more spirit. Like your kids, that is priceless.<\/p>\n\n\n\nCompressed by jpeg-recompress<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The right kind of attachment<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Like anyone working to achieve something great, Bowlby didn\u2019t do it on his own (this seems to be one of those absolute truths. You see it in sports, with the many different types of coaches for star performers, the core teams of those super successful businesses, or the village it takes to raise a child). The brilliant Mary Ainsworth, who worked closely with Bowlby, took his work further, identifying four types of attachment style. Understanding them will help you understand what\u2019s important in terms of how you show up with your children. But remember, like any model, it doesn\u2019t fully reflect reality. It\u2019s not this clear cut, nor as exclusive. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
When parents are consistently available, children learn they can rely on them<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When children learn they can rely on adults to care for them, they develop a secure attachment. Their carers are responsive to their needs, they help the child calm down, they set clear boundaries, they give unconditional love instead of withholding attention or love to get the child to conform. This doesn\u2019t mean they\u2019re constantly by their children\u2019s sides, that they shield them from the world, they let their children explore and learn but are there for them when things go wrong. Children with this type of attachment are better able to self-regulate, they learn more easily, have more persistence and build healthy relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When parents are consistently unavailable, children learn to keep things to look after themselves<\/p>\n\n\n\n
These children have learnt that they can\u2019t trust adults to meet their needs, to care for them. Their carers were not available to meet their needs, often leaving them to deal with their own fear, pain and emotional stress rather than supporting them through it. The child learns not to seek help in times of stress but try to manage their internal state by themselves. They create distance between themselves and others and need to feel in control. This is called an insecure avoidant attachment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When parents are unpredictably available, children seek attention and learn they can\u2019t rely on others<\/p>\n\n\n\n
These children are uncertain about whether they can trust adults, because their carers were unpredictable in how they responded to their children at times of need. Sometimes the parent would be caring and nurturing, at other times dismissive, distant or insensitive. This makes them overly clingy or needy \u2018turning the volume up\u2019 when they express their needs because they are insecure about whether they are going to get noticed and met. Later in life they tend to be needy and need constant reassurance from people they\u2019re close to. This is called insecure anxious attachment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When parents are rejecting or intrusively harmful towards children, children never learn to feel safe<\/p>\n\n\n\n
These children have often suffered some form of abuse, trauma or neglect in their early years. Not only were the adults who were supposed to care for them unavailable to do so, they were sometimes frightening or frightened themselves, so the child never learned to feel safe. Adults who experienced these kinds of relationships in their early years are often hyper-vigilant in later life and controlling and manipulative in relationships. This is called disorganised attachment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you\u2019re present and patient with your children. If you meet their feelings of fear, frustration, anger, shame, guilt, pride, excitement and joy with love, care and attention most of the time, you\u2019ll be building a secure attachment. You\u2019ll be being a great dad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When you get right to the heart of it, doing this well, doing parenting well, is about building a strong bond, a strong relationship. But, we get so distracted in our day-to-day, so caught up with work and what we think other people think. We question and doubt ourselves, We\u2019re in a rush to achieve, to have, to be, we forget to slow down and just love, patiently and fully. I hope this not so little article has helped you remember that.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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