{"id":4711,"date":"2021-05-17T03:38:20","date_gmt":"2021-05-17T02:38:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/towncryyers.com\/?p=4711"},"modified":"2021-05-17T03:38:24","modified_gmt":"2021-05-17T02:38:24","slug":"never-make-light-of-your-partners-feelings","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/towncryyers.com\/index.php\/2021\/05\/17\/never-make-light-of-your-partners-feelings\/","title":{"rendered":"Never Make Light Of Your Partner\u2019s Feelings"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Well-meaning comments can still make your partner feel hurt and invalidated.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Your allegedly reassuring messages may imply a \u201cshould\u201d\u2014that they should relinquish their negative feelings and think or behave differently.<\/li><li>The main reason you might react critically to your partner\u2019s adverse emotional state may be that it makes you feel a certain distress yourself.<\/li><li>For your partner to feel validated and supported by you, they need assurance that whatever they&#8217;re experiencing is inherently important to you.<\/li><li>You want your partner to experience not only your empathy and compassion but your ability to accurately understand where they\u2019re coming from.<\/li><li>To take something lightly implies not much caring about it. Or not giving it much weight. Or dismissing its significance. And when you take something \u201cin stride,\u201d it suggests it has little effect on you. By extension, you\u2019d expect that it wouldn\u2019t much affect anyone else either.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8230; But it very well might. And when it does, it will lead to a disconnect between you and the other person and, in ways you hadn\u2019t anticipated, degrade the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This post will discuss the hazards of not taking your partner\u2019s thoughts, feelings, sensations, and impulses as seriously as you need to. That is, if your partner is to feel validated, supported, and respected by you\u2014which, frankly, all of us yearn for in an intimate relationship\u2014they need to be assured that what\u2019s going on with them is inherently meaningful to you. Which means that anything important to them is automatically important to you because you love and are sincerely devoted to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Why You May Not Be Able, Non-Judgmentally, to Listen to and Accept Your Partner\u2019s Feelings<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you take your partner\u2019s negative emotions personally, it will make you uncomfortable, especially if you think you\u2019re getting blamed for them. That dissenting reaction will mobilize your psychological defenses\u2014of rationalization, denial, minimization, and\/or possibly counter-blame\u2014and so, prompt you to talk your partner out of them. And it\u2019s undeniable that whenever our buttons are getting pushed it\u2019s extremely difficult to respond to our partner\u2019s distress as, ideally, would most benefit them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">On the contrary, for example, telling your depressed partner to cheer up, to refocus their attention on the bright, sunny side of things; or to distract them by offering to take them out to dinner or see a movie with you, probably won\u2019t comfort them. They\u2019re more likely to feel not listened to, misunderstood, or even dismissed\u2014that you\u2019re not able or willing to resonate to their experience and empathically be with them as they\u2019re going through it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Moreover, underlying such allegedly reassuring messages is a misguided \u201cshould\u201d\u2014that they ought to relinquish their negative feelings and start thinking or behaving differently. And the main reason for your critical reaction may be that their adverse emotional state makes you feel a certain distress yourself. So directly challenging their negative emotions governs your decision to (glibly) \u201cmake light\u201d of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">However, because your motives are basically positive, you probably won\u2019t realize that inadvertently you\u2019re not helping but hurting your partner. And unless they can explain this to you, you may not learn what\u2019s required, going forward, to become more sensitive to them. Consider, too, that if they\u2019re in a particularly vulnerable state, they may be afraid to share their now increased frustration for fear it could result in an argument making them feel even more conflicted about or estranged from you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What\u2019s Required to Validate and Support Your Partner\u2019s Feelings<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Here are five things you can do to assist your partner in feeling you\u2019re compassionately aligned with them, whether their distress is about themselves, their situation (at home or at work), or their possibly ambiguous relationship with you:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">1. Listen to them in a caring, attentive manner they can\u2019t help but recognize as empathic. You\u2019re not attempting to alter their viewpoint or to fix their problem, just letting them know you\u2019re concerned that they\u2019re stuck in a bad place and (right now at least) can\u2019t see their way out of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">2. In your own words, articulate what they\u2019ve shared, or hinted at, in speaking to you. You want them to experience not only your empathy but your ability to accurately understand where they\u2019re coming from. Since they probably feel isolated and lonely in their agitated state of mind and feeling\u2014or maybe believe they don\u2019t have the right to feel the way they do\u2014when you can identify what\u2019s going on with them, it will help provide them with the reassurance they need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">3. If they\u2019re unable to express why they\u2019re feeling bad (or mad), try to do some productive mind &#8211; reading . That is, think about everything you know about their history, relationships (with family, relatives, friends, and enemies, etc.), as well as their personality, to infer what precipitated their current upset. And when you\u2019re ready to suggest an interpretation of what may consciously elude them, do so tentatively. For your mind-reading, although it may well be on target, is nonetheless speculative and possibly erroneous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Even if your assessment is correct, your partner may not be emotionally ready to go along with it. So if they don\u2019t agree with what you\u2019re describing, say you\u2019re sorry, that you\u2019re only trying to better connect with their distress but that, of course, they have final authority in determining its source. Note, too, that if the family they grew up in disallowed or rejected their feelings, they may actually have been conditioned to repress them. And that\u2019s why in the present, they may still feel unconsciously obliged to disown them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The bottom line here is that they receive from you the message that whatever their feelings, you perceive them as valid, as authentically related to the totality of their experience (not to mention, also their genetic makeup).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">4. Remember that validating your partner\u2019s experience doesn\u2019t necessitate your having had a similar experience yourself. Rather, what it takes is using your imagination to \u201cpicture\u201d yourself being exposed to what they were. Say they were molested as a child, and so unless they\u2019re touched in exactly the right, mild-mannered way they can\u2019t help but react with over-the-top anxiety.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Can you put yourself in their shoes and fantasize what it would feel like if someone forcibly appropriated your body for their lustful gratification? Imagine how you\u2019d feel objectified, powerless and out of control, weak, scared, terrified, or humiliated. Yes, you\u2019d need to be willing to make yourself uncomfortable to do this. But if you can, you can genuinely \u201cjoin\u201d them in what, vicariously, you created within yourself. And that may be precisely what they need to feel you\u2019re honoring\u2014and validating\u2014their disturbed feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">5. Closely related to such validation is your giving them the message that their feelings aren\u2019t neurotic but normal , that given what happened to them\u2014which, doubtless, negatively sensitized them to particular stimuli\u2014it\u2019s only natural that they\u2019d react this way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Finally, if you find yourself ignoring, resisting, or offended by any of these suggestions, ask yourself: \u201cMight I have unresolved issues of my own that I\u2019m not yet ready to address, for fear they could overtake me?\u201d For if this is the case, before you can open your heart and truly validate your partner, you may need to develop the same degree of compassion, understanding, or forgiveness toward yourself that you\u2019d like to offer them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Originally published at Psychology Today<\/em><em><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Well-meaning comments can still make your partner feel hurt and invalidated. 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