If research is done on publicly traded marriages, that is marriages that are constantly showcased in the news and on social media by the couples, I believe we will discover that majority do not pass the test of time. From the most publicized marriage of all time between Prince Charles and Princess Diana to the most recent episode in this phenomenon that is featuring Annie Macaulay and Tuface Idibia one can say that couples who showcase their highs and lows on social media are often exposed to market forces that influence the outcome of such marriages or relationships. This realization prompted newly webbed husband and singer Harrysong to share his thoughts on Instagram, he said – If you want to live long and have peace in your home as a young man, do not marry a woman that is heavy on social media, that can’t have the discretion of what to post and what not to post, because everything becomes content to attract brands to her.
The recent Instagram post by Tuface’s wife Annie Idibia continues to generate comments on social media. She called out her husband for spending time with the mother of his three children Pero Adeniyi whenever he visits the children in the United States. She extended her post to the grievance she has with his family, informing the world about issues that the world should not know about. She criticized the way they have treated her. In another follow-up post, she narrated the financial burden Tuface’s family places on her husband. This watching of her family’s linen in public prompted a reply from Tuface’s brother Charly Idibia, who watched some dirtier linen about her. Today, Nigerians are in the know of family details that should have remained within the family.
Most people are blaming her for this immature act that they say will never yield the desired result. But does she bear all the blame? Many have reminded her that before she married Tuface, she knew he was public property and that she displaced many seemingly better candidates to emerge as the glamorously wedded wife. They opine that she knew what she was getting into and that she should carry her cross quietly without bringing family issues to public view. Most people are not mentioning Tuface’s infidelity because they feel he does not owe her faithfulness. This is wrong. Some have even gone as far as saying that it is obvious that Tuface is a polygamist that has refused to declare publicly. And that he should marry Pero as a second wife. Every woman wants their husband to themselves alone and we must not fault Annie in this respect. Every man wants respect from their wife probably above any other thing, and this respect includes all members of their immediate family, Mrs. Idibia must not forget this written rule. Mr. and Mrs. Idibia have come a long way. They have a formula that has been working for them. They should improve this formula and keep their family matters from social media.
Ata Ukuta, Editor – Towncryyers