If a prophet prophecy to Tonto Dikeh that her beloved son would marry someone exactly like her, I believe she would vehemently say God forbid! Tufiakwa! And probably never talk to the prophet again. I believe the same is true for the many eligible spinsters out there singing Tiwa Savage’s new single Somebody’s son. Many girls and women singing this song lack what it takes to build a home with a man, yet they want somebody’s son to find them and marry them. They fantasize about the glorious celebrity wedding that would be the talk of their family and friends yet lack a single strategy on homemaking. One of our biggest defects in life is that we often sabotage our plans for a better life because of our inability for self-introspection. Which is the ability to look at ourselves critically and objectively and see the flaws that need to be flushed out of our lives. Many of these girls who are not qualified to be called damsels because of the men they have damaged are craftily plotting how they can capture the son of a woman who has painstakingly trained her son into a man.

I appeal to Mothers and would-be Mothers out there, to include how to know a Jezebel or homebraker as a compulsory course in the upbringing of their sons. This is not a joking matter because every society is built on the nuclear family – Husband, wife, and children. If the husband has not been trained well by his parents, it increases the chances of divorce and unhappiness in their home which will produce children who lack the skills for homemaking. The same is true for the wife and probably truer. One of the reasons for this is that Mothers are the chief operating officer of the home while Fathers are the chief executive officers conventionally. Mothers have a more strategic understanding and positioning in homemaking and building than men. With children, Mothers are also more equipped than Fathers to keep the home office running smoothly. It is in this regard that I urge Mothers to reconstitute their children’s training manual for the boys to be able to detect the Tonto Dikehs of this world. Fathers should also train their daughters on how to spot evil and unreasonable men who are just interested in a few nightstands.

In another twist to this issue of homemaking, a lady recently prayed and posted on social media that, may the daughters of randy men marry a man like their fathers. Many men would prayerfully wish this prayer does not manifest in their lives because of the atrocities they have done to the lives of innocent damsels. We must all realize that there is a day of payback unless you are enjoying a grace that makes you an exception. The rule is that we should do unto others what we want others to do to us or our children. You should not be singing somebody’s son will find me one day, when you do not have a plan or the skill to help make somebody’s son happy. If you plan to marry as a man or woman, just as jobs have descriptions and responsibilities, marriage and marital roles have job descriptions and responsibilities. For those who were unlucky to have been parented by single or skill-less parents, they must go the extra mile to train themselves on homemaking. Nigeria and the world will be a better place if families produced sons and daughters who are can help their spouse fulfill purpose and train children who are responsible and productive citizens. 

Ata Ukuta, Editor – www.towncryyers.com